Reflecting on My Friendships and Our Diverging Interests
Lately, I’ve been reflecting on the lack of shared interests between my friends and me. Over the past few months, I’ve noticed more and more friends “fade away” from my life. As someone in my early 20s, I understand that this is a natural phase. The friends I had growing up are no longer around, and I sometimes realize how many of them have disappeared or how our contact has simply faded.
Initially, I thought this was a problem, but after reading and reflecting, I’ve come to see it differently. Still, I find myself grappling with my current friendships. To be honest, I’m not completely satisfied with this aspect of my life right now. I can’t quite put my finger on it, but something feels missing.
I’ve also noticed that I’m becoming more introverted, while I don’t see this as a problem, it’s something I acknowledge. I’ve always been seen as an extrovert, and I still can engage with people easily and make new contacts. However, I struggle to find others who share my interests.
When I think about it, most of my friends and I have very different hobbies. Out of all my friends, only one person shares my deep interest in technology as an example. Tech has been a significant part of my life for so long, but I miss having conversations about it with others who are just as passionate.
Of course, friendships don’t have to be based on shared interests, but I believe they enhance the enjoyment of being together and finding activities to do. I long for friends with whom I can share ideas and discuss the latest developments in the tech world. I often envision conversations like those in tech podcasts—rambling about all kind of topics, laughing about it, and maybe even collaborating on projects together.
A few days ago, I spoke with my dad about how much I miss having friends who share my interests. During our conversation, he mentioned that many of his current friends come from work, and he believes that employment is a great way to connect with like-minded people. This idea resonates with me, especially since my studies involve many aspects of what I enjoy. While it doesn’t encompass everything, I hope my future career will align even more closely with my passions. I look forward to meeting new people with different perspectives from whom I can learn and build friendships.
I initially thought I would find like-minded peers when I started university, but I soon realized that very few people seem to have the same ambition for technology as I do. It’s not just tech, either—I’m also passionate about automotive topics, photography, and so much more. Yet, I still find it challenging to connect with people who have a similar enthusiasm for their interests.
Whenever I encounter someone who shows pure passion for something, I can’t help but feel drawn to them. It doesn’t even have to be about my current interests; witnessing someone speak passionately about anything sparks something in me. This is something I deeply miss in my day-to-day life.
Am I the only one among my friends who genuinely finds passion in my hobbies? It feels strange, and I wish I could see more of that passion in others.
When I watch YouTube videos, listen to podcasts, or read blogs, the creators often seem to have friends with whom they can share their interests. I hope to experience that kind of connection in the future. I believe that sharing interests makes activities more enjoyable and fun, especially when it involves creating something together, brainstorming ideas, and drawing inspiration from one another.
Perhaps that’s why I decided to start my own blog—to find people who share my passions. I’ve always loved following individuals online who express their interests and hobbies. Recently, personal blogs have been a source of inspiration for me. The way some bloggers articulate their enthusiasm for the things they love makes me happy and motivates me.
I’m not sure what the main goal of this post is, but I wanted to share my appreciation for finding a corner of the internet where I can connect with others worldwide. It’s a place that inspires me and fulfills a longing I’ve had for a long time.